Well I am back after sooo many days to post something thats running in my mind.....

What is it with these engaged people.. I have seen both extremes of people those who have gone head over heels about the "to be partner" but some are just a pillar.. absolutely no feelings at all... Is it just that or am i missing something? Maybe they dont want to show off that they do possess some feelings...

Ok let me come to the point.... Lets call this person Mr. X. A very close friend of mine....He got engaged to Miss C who is not from any of the prominent cities... The excerpt from our conversation today....

Me: Did u call C?
X : not exactly..
Me : what do u mean..not exactly?
X : whenever i try she does not answer the call.. and i havent tried too many times either..
Me : hmmmm may god bless you...
X : but why does everyone expect that anyone who is engaged spends millions on phone calls?
Me : because thats what any normal person would do... If u aren't in that category... never mind...
X : well here u go again
X : well lemme say i am not normal...
X : coz i believe in being practical
Me : then it is not an assumption then...
Me : ok be practical.. dont be romantic...
X : there will be time for that
Me : suffer your lonliness to tha largest extent...
Me : who and whats stopping u...
X : thank u
Me : But X, on a serious note...
Me : u wouldn't get this time again......
X : ya what about it.. the deal is already done.. i dont wanna seem overly warm or like a carpet.. just wanna let things take time
Me : and its a good way for her to know you and your family and also for you not to expect too much ,,,,,
X : well i am not expecting too much and that is the message i am trying to get to her also that i will not be head over heels with her..
X : or with anyone else so to take things more practically..
X : life has a lot of other meaning than just romance and courtship..
Me : hey what do you think? people just ooh and haa over the phone..
Me : not exactly..
X : what not exactly
Me : then there is nothing wrong to relay about normal things that happens in life...
Me : like what happens in office, what u ate?
Me : what she did?
X : that bores me honestly...
Me : what she learnt in her classes exactly..
X : loads of idle talk wont get either of us anywhere..
Me : who said so? these talks help some one to understand how patient the the other person is? what is sensitive and what not according to the other person...
X : well Dee.. what did you have for breakfast? i hope you digested yesterdays food well..
X : does that help any?

I am not saying that I all that I speak is right. But all that I am saying is that it is important that we appreciate small things in life. Whats wrong in being head over heels with some one you are gonna live through out your life, atleast during the courting days? Isn't it the very foundation for any relationship. Lets take for example that you have been gifted a nice Jacket for your B'day. You really love it and you start wearing it at every chance. Then the time would pass by and then still your liking for it hasn't faded away but not that you show off like the way you did earlier. This is just taking things for granted phase. Then one fineday say you have lost it, wont you feel guilty and sorry for having done so. Now you know it is a loss and you brood over it. If not always I am sure you will, atleast whenever you think about it.

So what is the rule of the game? Is it a crime to court a little more during your initial days in a relationship? Not that you gotta go out of your way and woo the "to be spouse" and be totally different in real life. Well I am really confused.. If someone could comment on it please do so...